This an emerging way of sex that has is controversial especially among Christians. Some of them approve of it while some of them condemn it. The ones who approve it intimate that it is not sinful if done with your wife. Others view this method as unclean. This method raises many moral questions; many people are interested in knowing the position of the bible on this issue.
The reasons for its increased popularity is because it is being used as a substitute by girls who want to avoid pregnancy and losing virginity, while men simply love the experience. Secondly, many authors are advocating for it, through the numerous books and articles published. Finally it seems to be the current sex fad.
There is a possibility that this mode of sex has been practiced for centuries in secrecy. The reason for the increased awareness may be attributed to increased freedom of expression, technological advancements that enable quick dissemination of information or simply the world is becoming more immoral day by day.
Twelve years ago when i was a teenager, i had never encountered the terms- Homosexual, lesbian,Oral sex, Masturbation. When i joined high school in the year 2000, that is when i started encountering those words. By then our country Kenya, was experiencing dramatic technological advances.
The first Radio stations running in FM frequency were set up, Increased number of TV stations and longer broadcasting hours started, Mobile phone technology was introduced in the country. These developments ushered the information age on the above matters. I became aware that some people are practicing the acts including members of my School secretly.
We are now in a moment in history where such acts are being Advocated for in public. Some few months back, Britain declared it will cut Aid to those African Countries that don’t support Gays, however there was a quick attempt to correct the issue after the country realized it going to damage their relations with The still conservative African Countries.
The position of the bible regarding sex is: those who are married should have sex regularly and enjoy the experience, while condemnation is pronounced on those who fornicate and commit adultery. With regard to homosexuals the position of the bible is clear that this is sin, it so grievous to God; societies that practice it separate themselves from him to their own destruction.
However the bible is silent on the issue of oral sex, in legally married couples. This does not mean that it is acceptable. We need to conduct an in-depth study of the bible so that we can arrive at a clear position on this issue; so that our consciences are fully clear on this matter.
The mind is the greatest sex organ because the gonads receive messages from it-to act or not to act. When couples admit after adopting this particular sex style, after the enjoyment and ecstasy is over, deep inside they felt uncomfortable with it.many couples who have practiced oral sex, according to research indicate having guilt feelings. Some have even raised health concerns. For instance, Many medical researchers have commented and believe that oral sex has led to herpetic diseases, in some instances cervical cancer.
The purpose of this article is to examine if this style should be encouraged among Christians. Let us start from the Book of Genesis; the first book of the bible. Genesis chapter 1 is a summary of Gods work for the six days of creation. After completing this work, He looked at everything he had made, He declared “it is very good”.
31 And God saw every thing that he had made, and, behold, it was very good. And the evening and the morning were the sixth day.
Gen 1:31 (KJV)
This statement was made by God on the sixth day when man [That is Adam and Eve] had already been created. Their bodies were perfect and complete. The declaration is: it was very good. The man was created with a penis, while the woman a vagina; organs that would be used but not limited to in procreation and marital enjoyment. Adam was the first man to have the experience of sex. The Bible describes it as:
1 And Adam knew Eve his wife; and she conceived, and bare Cain, and said, I have gotten a man from the LORD.
Gen 4:1 (KJV)
Other versions use the word lay; others indicate that Adam Knew his wife intimately. Other portions of the scripture introduce the aspect of Kissing and caressing. Kissing is of two types one between husband and wife, the other was among friends and close family members. Kissing is shown as a way of indicating that someone is being blessed. For the purpose of this article, a kiss is: One between husband and wife.
Genesis 26:8 introduces the aspect of caressing.
When Isaac had been there for some time, Abimelech king of the Philistines looked down from the window and was surprised to see Isaac caressing his wife Rebekah.
Gen 26:8 (HCSB)
Isaac was caressing the wife’s body since they were outside, where the public could have seen them. It must have been during daytime, because after the incidence, Isaac is summoned by Abimelech and he declares to his subject that whosever who harms Isaac or his wife must die. This is the only instance where caressing is mentioned.
There is not a single verse that indicated Men of God practiced sexual excesses as currently advocated in the world. Sexual excesses will destroy love for devotional exercise on Godly matters. Once they are practiced, one is chained, stopping them becomes impossible. When they are indulged they become more violent will be their clamor for indulgence.
Oral sex is a form of caressing that is directed to the penis for a man or clitoris for a woman with the aim of foreplay or achieving orgasm. The question is, can sexual fulfillment be achieved only through the conventional method, or must the mouth be involved? I believe the mouth need not be used to stimulate the sexual organs.
There are instances recorded in the bible when a man or woman was considered unclean due to body discharges. It is not the discharge that make someone unclean: but what is contained in them. The bible was way ahead of time by recognizing some body discharges may have diseases.
Touching such a person would make you unclean. How do we reconcile oral sex and the aforesaid phenomenon? These organs are also involved in the passage of urine, menstrual flow. there are definitely health implications in the practice.
Furthermore the practice Oral sex reduces men and women to animal like behavior. It should be shunned because there is no evidence of its practice and benefit in the bible. The intention of the participants is to gratify their passion at all cost in complete disregard to health and modesty.
One E.G White, in her book Adventist home wrote “Not one word should be spoken, not one action performed that you would not be willing the holy angels should look upon and register in the books above”… Anything which is different from this is debasing, degrading… and marriage cannot be holy and honorable in the sight of a pure and Holy God.
